Can a man be sexy?

We
still meet with the young women every Friday at 3:00. It’s become so
enjoyable as we’ve gotten to know them and become friends. Here in
Swazi sex is huge. This is evident in their 42% rate of HIV/AIDS as
well as the high number of teen pregnancies. Obviously this issue of
sex and the role it plays in their culture is something we discuss
often with the girls. There’s fault of both sides of the gender line,
but we can only really address it from the feminine side. We realized
how skewed their perspective would be because of this though. If all
they heard from us was that they’re beautiful simply because they’re
made in God’s image, and that waiting for sex after marriage is better
than not, and that they have power as women then they would pale in the
face of real temptation and real decisions because the boys in their
lives do not uphold the same message. Therefore, we thought it wise to
let them hear from the guys on our team what a Godly man thinks. So we
had them write down questions they had and I decided to post them as a
blog. I found grammatical errors to be quite hilarious, so I kept them.
Apologies if they’re hard to understand.

·         Why most of the times it’s you guys who approach to the girls and when girls approach it’s like embarrassing?

·         If
a girl is having some feelings for a guy and then try to show the guy
in some ways, what do the guy usually thinks of that girl?

·         What do guys really mean when they tell a girl “I love you”, yet they were not hating me even before?

·         My friend who is a boy and not in love with him is it possible to call him my boyfriend or it’s weird?

·         What attracts boys in sexy girls?

·         How do we see that a boy loves us?

·         What is the important part in a girl boys like?

·         Is it possible for a girl to tell a boy that she loves him?

·         Which goals does a man want to achieve in life?

·         How can you tell that I’m sexy?

·         Can a man be sexy? How can I see?

·         What makes a man to have two wives?

·         List two things that can show me you love me.

·         Who teach males how to propose?

·         Why do the guy like to tell girls that they love them?

·         What makes you to say nasty things when girls are wearing their short skirts?

·         What makes boys fight for girl?

·         Do you have a girlfriend? (this was by far the most popular question)

·         If the boys say “I love you” what do you say?

·         Do you have a child? (ha)

·         What can you do with you girlfriend?

·         Why do you loves girls?

·         Why are you guy like to do some thing for girls like to buy for girls?

·         Why boys like to see the body of girls?

·         Why boys like to touch you when there are walking with girls?

·         Why do you make the girls pregnant because for you didn’t marry them?

·         What happened if the boy sitting private place with the girlfriend?

·         Why the boys not wanting the girlfriend talking with other boys?

·         Why most of the boys getting lust for girls?

·         Why do boys like to have girlfriends?

·         What do you benefit from having a girlfriend?

·         How long does it takes you to know a girl and how long do you date before marrying?

·         What is it that you do not like about girls?

·         What is it that you like?

·         When did you started dating? What is the normal age of dating?

·         What makes you to not concentrate on girls?

·         What is helping you to be what you are today?

·         Sometimes you are tempted physically, what helps you to overcome the situation?

·         What kind of woman would you like to marry? What physical qualities are you looking for?

·         Can you marry someone who is not a Christian? If she loves you and is promising to change can you accept that? If not, why?

 

You
could argue that hearing from the guys is giving them false hope
because there seem to be no boys here who live up to the standards that
Jon and Bryan do, but I would respond to that with Romans 8:24-25, “Now
hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? But if
we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.”